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Elderly Parents

Is a Burden or a Blessing?

Good news: Having elderly parents is very common now-a-days. Many years ago, when I was a teenager, most of my friends didn't have all of their grandparents still alive.

Today, however, with advanced health care for the elderly, the average life expectancy in most Western countries is above 80, and it is not uncommon for even adult children in their fifties and early sixties to still have parents.

This is certainly great. There is so much for you to gain from taking care of elderly parents.

• Advice from someone who has 70 or 80 years of experience behind them. Most job offers require previous experience. A person who is lucky enough to be able to talk and learn from aging parents can learn about their "job" of living from someone who has many many years of experience.
• Connect with your roots. No tree can stand up against strong winds without deep roots and no building can withstand even a slight earth tremor without deep foundations. The longer your parents live the deeper you become attached to your past history and the better you AND YOUR CHILDREN are protected from the strong storms of modern society
• Having a personal cheerleading squad. Everyone would love to have a cheerleading squad to encourage them in what they do. Who are better cheerleaders who sincerely want you to succeed like older parents.
• Showing your children how you want to be treated when you are old. When children see the way that their parents are taking care of aging parents then they learn the best way possible, by example, how to take of their aging parents, YOU, (let's not fool ourselves, we also, hopefully, will also be old someday!) when the time comes.

However let's be real, there is also another side of the coin; taking care of aging parents is not always so simple or easy.

• Aging parents and role reversal is emotionally difficult. Aging parents and role reversal is the time in life when you begin parenting your aging parent instead of them parenting you. This is very emotionally disrupting because for most of your life you looked at your parents for comfort, protection, and help and all of a sudden they look to you for these things. You begin to feel vulnerable and emotionally confused.
• Paying for elderly care. There are a lot of ways to help your aging parents but health care for the elderly can be very expensive. And remember it is not a one time expense; the longer that they live the more expensive that it becomes. If you don't have the needed funds, this can cause a lot of pressure.
• In a family where the parent/child relationship was never "too warm" then taking care of the elderly parents is even more difficult. The old time difficulties don't go away with age and, on the contrary, they are exaggerated because the aging parent is so dependent on you.
• Taking care of aging parents involves a tremendous amount of time. Taking care of elderly parents is not a 1-2-3 task. Doctor 's appointments and just helping and escorting them to social and family events eats away at the normal tight and stressed schedule of today's society.

Seeing that taking care of elderly parents is both a blessing and a burden it is important to put yourself into the right mindset and to focus on the benefits, long and short term, that you are receiving in order to repay your parents all that they did for you.

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